8 Surrogacy Related Questions That Intended Parents Frequently Ask



Everyone has their own individual reasons for going the surrogacy way! Whatever your reasons for considering surrogacy are, you might have a number of queries and apprehensions in mind before you start out.

Here are the answers to some of the questions that intended parents frequently ask before embarking on this unusual journey. Hopefully, they will provide an answer to your queries too.

1.    Should you find an independent surrogate or consider a surrogacy agency?

To become parents through surrogacy, you can either opt for an independent arrangement or find a surrogacy agency. Before you choose a surrogate, it is imperative that you take into account the ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ of both the processes, and decide what suits your needs best.

2.    How long does the whole surrogacy process take?

The duration of the process depends on a number of factors. Approximately, it might take about a year and a half from the time you sign a contract with the surrogate.  However, the process can be quicker or take longer. This depends on the course of the IVF treatment and the time taken to manage the legal requirements.

3.    Can you be a parent if you are single or homosexual?

A number of surrogacy agencies provide services to intended parents of all backgrounds, including heterosexual couples, single individuals,  and homosexual couples. Look for a surrogacy agency which can make the necessary arrangements.

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4.    Can you be a parent if you or your partner have HIV?

Yes. An HIV + man can be a father provided he undergoes a semen washing procedure. The process of washing the semen from an HIV + man to artificially inseminate an HIV- woman started in 1992.  Till date, there has not been a single case of HIV transmission in the women who had undergone this assisted reproduction process.

However, to ensure safety for the surrogate, it is important that the intended father having HIV:

  • Takes the necessary medications religiously
  • Carries no other sexually transmitted infections
  • Takes steps to suppress the ‘viral load’ for at least six months.

If the intended mother has HIV, she can consider using an egg donor or the surrogate’s eggs. Also, it is necessary to consult both an HIV specialist and a Gynecologist.

5.    What are the surrogacy laws in the United States?

Currently, the Unites States has no federal laws about surrogacy.  Each state has its own surrogacy laws. Consult a legal advisor to avoid any and every possible legal complication that might arise during the procedure.

6.    What are the chances of having a baby with surrogacy?

It is quite difficult to determine the success rate with surrogacy. This might depend on a number of factors, including:

  • The age of the surrogate
  • The surrogate mother’s ability to get pregnant
  • The age of the person providing sperm/ egg
  • The lifestyle of the egg/ sperm providers and that of the surrogate

The age of the egg provider is one of the most important factors that affect the chances of pregnancy.

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7.    What are the chief factors for a positive surrogacy arrangement?

To achieve a positive outcome from a surrogacy arrangement, the following factors should be taken care of.

  • A clear and open communication between both parties is required.
  • Both parties should have sufficient knowledge of the medical process(es). This includes being realistic about the timeline.
  • You can take the help of a number of professionals to enjoy a successful outcome. This includes psychologists ( for counseling) , Lawyers ( to negotiate agreements on  egg donation and surrogacy and to prepare other  necessary legal documents ), medical specialists ( to obtain egg and sperm , to monitor the pregnancy and to deliver the child).
  • Surrogacy treatment is expensive. So, it is imperative that you plan a budget and make monetary arrangements beforehand.

8.    What can be the approximate cost of surrogacy?

Since surrogacy involves counseling coupled with legal and medical costs, it can be quite expensive. However, the cost might vary depending on factors like:

  • The rate charged by the fertility clinic/surrogacy agency
  • The procedure needed to impregnate the surrogate
  • The number of attempts undertaken to impregnate the surrogate

To plan a budget, you can discuss the details of cost with the clinic or surrogacy agency directly.

If you have further queries regarding surrogacy, then you can refer to our other pages to clear your doubts.

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